As a relatively new mom it's really hard not to make comparisons with other parents/babies despite everyone telling you not to do so. You just can't help it. Babies develop at different rates and have usually caught up with each other by the time they're 2 years old but it doesn't stop me from wanting to "push" Simon to do things that some other babies are already doing. I really have to stop and remind myself that he'll do things when he's good and ready - he's calling the shots on developing, not me.
Some of the comparisons stem from moms just wanting to check in with other moms. Comments like "is little Johnny crawling/talking/walking/driving yet?" isn't a question tended to spark competition, but in the back of most parents' minds it does. Maybe competition isn't the right word - you can substitute it for worry (oh no, is something wrong with Johnny?), feelings of parental inadequacy (oh no, did I not do something right for Johnny?), or whatever.
Simon is a big kid. There's no getting around it. At 30 inches tall and 25+ pounds, he's already wearing 18-24 month clothing and in size 5 diapers. At his 9 month checkup last week the doctor said that he's a little behind on the gross motor skills (crawling, scooting, pulling himself up to a standing position, standing unassisted against furniture, etc.) but given his robust size she's not worried yet. We did have some homework between now and his 12 month checkup and that's to put his toys out of reach and make him work for them. Apparently we've been making him too comfortable by giving him his toys! He's already making some progress. Last week his movement was mostly limited to rolling (preferably only left). Given some good motivation - toys and kitties just out of reach - Simon is now rolling a bit more to the right and even staying on his tummy to reach for things. He's always hated being on his stomach so this is an achievement! He's also starting to bounce while in a sitting position.
Eventually he'll start putting things together and he'll be mobile. In the meantime I need to focus on the things that he is doing well. The kid knows how to make teeth! Tooth #9 broke the surface yesterday (a molar) and the other 3 aren't far behind. He's eating solids very well and is starting to do more self feeding. He's also drinking from his sippy cup like a pro. His babbling increases everyday and he's got an adorable laugh. And probably his best skill, in my opinion... his awesome tight squeezy hugs!